this is for every girl every wife to read who's is in a relationship----------
no job,no hobby,no activity can compare with the drama n exhilaration of living with a man
*study ur man,as if he were a strange n rare n fascinating guy n constantly changing
*take pride in his strength n acheivements but analyze his areas of weakness,too.
*Think n Learn-
"u hav fallen in love.ur dazzled by a man's brilliance,his confidence,his charm.u hav yet to encounter his uncertainties n inadequacies.but ths is whr u can really luv him,really help him,really b a partner".
*respect his wrk.whn u marry a man,u also marry his job.at times u may even feel tht the job comes bfr u.it doesnt really,but doing his wrk well means as much to a man as motherhood to a woman.
moreever he wud come ONLY to u after his job.n he is doing his job well ONLY for u.its u for whm he's wrking,earning more to live best.
*learn the tricy n challenging art of absorption.a lot of grls regard thnselves as divinely appointed recieving stations for love.thy r constantly concerned abt hw much attention n affection thy r getting.certainly a gal is entitled to luv n loyalty but she also has to b ready to absorb irritatbility on the part of her guy at times-flashes of displaced anger,discontent with his own performance.ths things hav to find an outlet smewhr.if a grl can think of herself as a kind of lightning rod tht conducts fear n frustation harmlessely into the ground,not only will she b of inestimable value to her hubby but she will grow tremendously as a person herself.
*let ur man knw tht u need him.if u feel uncared,unloved n sincerely want a solution to all,thn go to ur man.ask him to put his arms around u.whn he does,say to him,"darling,im'hurt,im'unhappy n i think u knw y.im ur partner.plz hold me"thts all u need to do.the admission of ur need of luv will wrk miracles tht no amount of anger can do.
*use ur talents.if u hav a gift,dnt let it gather dust,use it to expand ur relationshp.
REMEMBER-
even whn a man becomes successful n knows it,sme hidden,sensitive part of him continues to need the unquestioning support n loyalty of a loving woman.
most men desperately need a sounding board against which to test ideas,hopes,dreams,ambitions,problems,inner conflicts tht thy cant resolve alone.thy need a woman to whm thy can confide thr innermost thoughts n feelings without the fear of ridicule or rejection.
thr r also times whn a grl has to b silent,has to bite her toungue,hold back the sharp words tht will turn an argument into a fight or a bad situation into a worse one.
whnever an argument arises between u n ur guy-n he shouts n says rude things to u n u feel like yelling back at him-jst b quiet.hold back ur words n recite in ur mind-ILU
whr the ship of matrimony is concerned,ur hubby may b the engine but ur the rudded-n its the rudder tht determines whr the ship will go.cheeers
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