somewhr in the shadows...

Somewhere in the shadows, my destiny awaits
moments pass like a whirlwind...
no time to sit back n wonder.....
life rolling on twisted roads...
truly blusihly lost n squeezzed..
a cherished signature of lost love.

हमने यह कभी सोचा न था............

हमने यह कभी सोचा न था दूरियां ऐसी भी होंगी 
साथ तो  होगा वो  मेरे ............
पर वो  मेरा न था .......
अक्स तो मौजूद है पर अक्स तन्हाई का है
आईना तो है आज भी उसकी आँखें
पर उसमे चेहरा मेरा  न था .....
आज उसने अपने दर्द से भी जुदा कर दिया
उसकी आँख की नमी में परछाई मेरी न थी 
आज में रोई ..पर साथ मेरे वो रोया न था 
यह सब वीरानियाँ उसके जुदा होने से है
आँख धुन्द्लाई हुई है मेरी
कायनात  धुन्द्लाई  नहीं है ......
भूल जाने के सिवा अब कोई चारा नहीं
क्यूंकि यादों की रौशनी और
तन्हाई के आंसू से भी
उसे वापिस मेरे पास आना न था .....

Pure n Simple Happiness....

HAPPINESS is like a butterfly..the more u chase it..the more it will elude it..but if u turn ur attention to other things it will come n sit softly on ur shoulders….
Because we r mostly slugging through our lives ,doom mongering and feeling miserable abt ppl n things tht bother us…basically we struggle to look for happiness contrary to wht saints say tht happiness is within us only….
But as far I can think is tht we are simple ppl n to get happy we need to look around to find simple n pure happiness
Khusian ki talash me door talak dekhti hamari nazar aksar pass se guzarti choti choti khusian ko dekhe se chook jati hai…..
Simple things are our feel gud triggers…I feel tht its not a big deal to feeling or giving happiness..its actually a choice…..happiness---.it’s an attitude…..
-----to feel happy depend on urself n urself only….y shd it b someone else’s duty to make u happy-b it spouse or lover or kids or parents??...attented a wedding yesterday whr parents as usual were saying to daughter ..beta pati ko khush rakhna..but why thy shdnt b saying beta khush rehna…cz if tht happens pati toh apne aap khush rehega..uske ghar ka atmosphere khusnuma toh who apne aap khush…lol..
-----shed the preconceived notion of wht is supposed to make u happy cz in real life it doesn’t happen tht every guy gifts u flowers n talk romantically mushy things all the time… every guy is not like tht.. …but tht doesn’t mean tht thy dnt care or thy luv u any less…. ur guy may b the one who always keeps a check as to if ur car is wrking properly ..n if any problem arises it gets repaired at priority…..take care tht ur gas tank is nvr out of fuel….if ur always carrying sufficient amount of money in ur wallet…..he helps u out at home so tht u dnt tire urself…..he takes care of the kids whn ur indulging in ur hobbies like writing or painting …waits for u with a smile whn u get home everyday…whn he tolerate ur little qiurks with a smile...things like tht..these things make u feel more blessed n precious…I can vouch for it ....lol
-----b practical n do not indulge in self pity..GOD didn’t send u in ths world with a signed bond tht every day of ur life will b trouble free or u will always b happy ..jst happy ..nopes it isn’t bad to b sad sometimes even…n the mess in ur life is surely ur own..so quit the drama of asking .”y me god?”everytime u face a problem…I dnt find it rgt .as to whn ppl face a problem the next moment thy start running to temples without even trying the things on thr own…god doesn’t deserve ur whinning…he hasn’t done bad to deserve ur crying…go to him for strength n sharing but not for blaming him…change ths notion…
----the best n sureshot way of feeling happy is to selflessely do something for someone withgout even thm asking for it n without ever expecting a thank you…in return…
----to b happy …feel happy….smile n think happy…the more u do ths..the more u will b happy…
THINK HAPPY …GIFT HAPPINESS

My 7 rules of relationship...

my 7 rules
1 dnt get hurt easily
2-if someone hurts u forgive instantly but nvr forgive urself for trusting n dnt forget the lesson...laugh out loud n dnt let surprises surprise u anymore
3-get angry momentarily..so forget things n unnecassry data n dnt clutter ur mind...with negative thoughts
4-whn ur hurt u get cynical n u react.. n if u both can stand tht ,nothing can make u go away frm each other..
5-dnt get hurt n dnt remember n dnt get angry beyond the passion of tht particular moment
6-give more credit to intentions n sincerity thn the words
7-believe in building ...not breaking...
when ur right simply shut up .smile n give back a hug n whn ur wrong simply admit it..smile n give back a hug...
HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS...

Energy layers n stress...

Very often whn ppl go through a stressful situations ,they develop health problems…thts cz mind affects the body in many ways…
As per Indian holism..the body has 5 energy layers…
1-the food energy layer
2-the breath layer
3-the mind layer
4-the higher wisdom layer
5-the bliss layer

Whn stress affects the body..its the negative thinking tht blocks the mind layer..negative thinking cuts u off from the power of spiritual self..a kind of divine power…..whn a block occurs..u suffer frm a total lack of energy..jst like power going off..
Negative thinking is not thinking bad abt someone…it is thinking unpleasant thoughts abt urself and the situations tht ur in..like Blaming urself for everything…Ego based rigidity…Jumping to conculsions…
Negative thinking is realistic thinking to our mind so we protect ourselves by thinking the worst…but actually negative thinking makes us powerless n joyless..
Safety lies in our wisdom ,not in our minds ..to think frm the wisdom layer..u hav to transcend the mind layer…

black clouds in the sky....

whn u see blue sky scattered with pure black clouds....
nurturing glamour n substance...
whn u see light shining through darkness
through the halo of light.....coming through..
look up at the sky.................
n u will see me beside u under the same sky.

luv versus drug....

Listening to a girl's story of heartache...a thought occured in my mind tht if----
love is like a drug........
loss of love is akin to withdrawal symptoms of a drug.........

when ppl feel loved by anyone , it gives them a high,a hormonal kick which is similar to a drug..u get a feel gud factor...a postive energy tht instills happiness n peace n enthusiasam....just like a drug...

so whn thy lose luv thr are withdrawal symptoms..its very substantial n very real..a person cant sleep..thy jst lie thr wondering wht happened n hw it happened n wht cud hav been......
its romantic rejection n wrenching story of heartache...coupled with obsessive thinking and craving for emotional union..crying n wanting to b taken back.calling unneccasirly in a false hope...

so luv is like an addiction..with loss of luv thr is depression which triggers hormones...

but with time u get over it..time heals..n ppl move on ..with time n energy..n with time ppl get more n more calmer..it doesnt stop hurting it doesnt stop paining cz luv is in mind..
i believe tht whn ppl come into ur life thy spread thr magic upon you n all over the place ..but whn thy leave ..a part of you too dies..forever nvr to b revived again... it goes away..nvr to come back..breaking up with loved one is like ripping apart life.....

LDR--n enduring the GAP...

LDR-long distance relationship….
why distance in a relationship is ultimately ill-fated. But, is it really difficult to cope and thrive under pressure has forced me to think…….
Along with an LDR comes a variety of negative feelings; frustration, possessiveness, even trust issues….
In difficult times its a bleak picture about long distance, for many people a long distance relationship is the kiss of death. At this stage you crave for each other. You want to be physically close. …
Communication levels have increased many fold these days.:but…these forms of communication often don’t pay off with a truly fulfilling interaction. Whereas it was once easy to chat in person, now those normal, daily interactions are severely curtailed. It requires real effort to keep in touch and feel connected….
Maintaining a long distance relationship can prove to b quite the challenge. and luv isn’t always enough…..it requires effort ,patience and commitment..There’s no point of being in it if everything about your relationship bothers you…..
So enduring a LDR requires---
1-commitment
2-honesty
3-communication
4-trust
5-optimism
Here are things you should focus on.
------ Be strong. Remind yourself of the big picture and be ready to do what it takes to make it work…thr no point plunging into LDR if ur not ready to give 100%..lay down some ground rules n share your expectations.
-----Make sure your partner is clued in to wht is going on in ur life.keep him/her updated abt any changes in lifestyle,work schedules or networking ….anything left unmentioned can backfire in bleak n difficult times….
------ Keep communication channels open make sure ur accessible over the cell or net throughtout the day….talk to ur partner as often as u can….. This will reduce misunderstandings and reassure your partner of your sincerity... Too less communication can end up in, well, frustration….so communicate often as much as u can…dnt keep gaps in communication…dedicate time to ur partner.take time out of your hectic schedule to b in touch..even a simple text message or email works wonders……Use technology. Skype, email, IM n call…. text, chat online, call every single day. It’s what keeps you going. Basically it’s a test of nerves when you are that far apart
-------make it a point to meet up every month.
-----Trust issues can kill any relationship,esp whn it’s a LDR..creating a web of distrust n doubt leads to mutual disrespect n animosity..rather thn resorting to petty arguments…talk out ur suspicions to ease ur mind n move forward….n if a issues on trust creeps in do everything needed to get rid of tht doubt rather thn escaping from sitations n not being answerable n getting rid of relationship n the partner….
--------Dnt let ur relationship becoming a liability…….It takes a lot of time and patience,’ one has to invest a lot of time and emotion to make up for time apart..its the bonding tht makes a relationship…n every relationship comes with a bonding n bondage tht binds the relationship…..
And to make sure negative issues don’t creep into your relationship and ruin it, you and your partner need to have a sensible head on your shoulders…. A relationship is not child’s play….. a couple needs to know where they are headed to make the distance tolerable.

So LDR ----can b endured ……
It can make you independent, strong and it can teach you the value of the much spoken about ‘space’ between couples. ‘It is not for the weak hearted, though. You will spend a lot of time away from your partner and that takes strength n trust n a bonding n a faith tht it will work….from both sides in equality….
Count ur blessings…u hav a partner who u luv.cherish n admire…..n ur cherished in return….

my faith is fading.....

my faith in you is fading......
the days are spent in bewilderment
of my longings...of your memories...
the nights i dnt dream abt u,
are the night's i stay up thinking of u
i got tired of waiting..wondering if u were coming around
my faith in you is fading....
u forced me to realize tht things pass,
n the best i can do is to let u really go...
coz u had already left our togetherness...
u forced me to know tht even the person
who wasnt ever supposed to let u down ,probably will....
n u will get ur heart broken more thn once n its harder everytime
n u loose the one u luv n the one u luv may want to go away frm u....
my faith in you is fading.......
u ain't holding my hand anymore in darkness or light...
u had broken the trust n the tradition..of our togetherness...
u forced me to realize the changed answers n priorities....
my faith in you is fading......
my luv n annoyance went un-understood in ur mind..
it was luv n anger both upon you n you only...
both went un-understood n unrealized...
my faith shatterted in you saying NO
n you wanting to go away...cz u didnt want to stay...
u left...but the scar will remain forever
my life ripped apart....n my faith faded...

Faith n Betrayal....

To feel betrayed u need to hav trusted someone to begin with......
betrayal---nice word..but it hits u with a sledge hammer if u hav no idea tht it is headed in ur direction at the speed of light...it collapses ur world..n u feel stupid indeed more thn feeling betrayed alone...u feel stupid..u feel stupid tht hw cud u hav given so many chances to the other one for insulting u....y were u being so navie...n ur being navie makes u feel more stupid...
its only whn u buy into a particular myth tht a sense of betrayal kicks in..
as we go through life..lots of things unfold as...
----even the person who wasnt ever supposed to let u down,,probably will
----u will hav ur heart broken probably more thn once n its harder everytime
----u loose smeone u luv .....coz ur trust is betrayed...
-----u fight with ur best frnd coz priorities change
faith shatter n betrayal happen coz of changed answers n priorites n whn u start feeling relationship is a liability..u feel bonded trapped n thn u betray ...u shatter someone luv n trust...n it breaks a life...
nothing is permanent...noone is immortal
but the moral of story is the higher u build..the harder it falls...the more the trust..the greater the sense of betrayal...
nvr break a life..if u can stop it.....

vandy's mantra 5

-----Beware of anything tht seems too good...

----if smeone throws a stone at u-smile n throw back a flower but mak sure the flowerpot is attached to it....

----Age is an issue of mind over matter.if u dnt mind it doesnt matter....jst chill n njoy whtever day ur living...simply forget ur past n nvr wry abt ur future....

-----Anger doesnt turn men/women into beast/bitch,it makes thm goddammned more desirable thn ever....

----y b jst difficult whn u can b impossible.....with a little magic n little madness...in u.... n the magic will begun zara zara sa .......

---i'm a grl with attitude,pride n substance....in a different league...in a parallel world...living through my soul..n mind...waltzing down the memory lane serenly singing the songs in tune....--lyf luv n longings n lunch breaks

-To keep relationship brimming with luv,whnever ur wrong smile back give a hug instantly n whnever ur right simply shut up....n smile back n give a hug...n nvr let him/her go...jst let go of the argument...n let luv stay in between ...

--whn u forgive ppl its bcz u still want thm in ur life...............so u dnt forgive thm for ur gudness...u forgive thm for ur selfishness..for ur own happiness..n it makes the forgiveness an better option....

--trouble is part of life n if u dnt share it,u dnt give the person who loves u enough chance to love u enough...

---better thn trying to make someone else happy ..stay happy urself ..the ppl around u will b automatically b happy...kisi ko khush rakhe ke koshish ki bajaye khud khush raho... ass pass sab accha n khusnuma hi hoga...

vandy's mantra 4

----Dnt build n get attached in relationships n frndships.thy come into ur lyf with a return ticket.it only hurts sooner or later.....

-----Whn smeone hurts u,forgive instantly but nvr forgive urself for trusting n nvr forget the lesson.laugh out loud n dnt let surprises surprise u anymore.....

----B gregarious but stay aloof... -Life is all abt-either ppl need u or thy need u to need thm.nothing else,so its better to b alone thn lonely..


---Most desirable trait in woman -confidence
in man - strenght of mind
its abt the confidence with which a woman carries herself...the way she walks n the way she talks ..its not abt being beautiful n abt best assests...its her way tht makes her desireable frm inside...n its the strenght of mind n humour in his smile n mind tht makes a man tempting n unresistable...

----Its better to err on the side of daring thn on the side of caution..even u get wrong result at least u know u had the guts n the result may b anything ...yet u dared n had ur heart's desire....n u didnt escaped or ur mind is not shallow for excuses...

----Zindagi ko is andaz me jiyo ki aap ko dekh kar log kahe ki zindagi kitni khoobsurat hai....

----Seven wonders of the world-
to see,hear,smell,talk,smile,walk n feel love

---Khusian ki talash mein door talak dehkti hamari nazar aksar pass se guzarti choti choti khusian ko dekne se chook jati hai...khusian hamare pass hi hai har samay ....happiness is an attitude not an circumstance...thr may b lot of problms in ur heart n mind but ur lips dnt know it...let thm learn jst to smile....

-----Woh khusi b kya jo apne ki ankhen me ansoo bhar de...

----Words dnt hav much depth.silence is more profound....

vandy's mantra 3

-----life is nothing but your state of mind, kami kisi cheez ki nahi zindagi mein ..na khusi ki na gam ki..its ur perception tht decides wht ur n hw u lead ur life n its ur attitude tht decides ur happiness...coz happiness is not a circumstance,its an attitude...jiyp bindass ...with lots of smile on ur lips to gift around everyday.....

-----a smile..so simple yet beautiful..it suits everyone...gift a smile everyday....dnt jst smile at ur kid whn u wave him gudbye...not jst ur partner n parents whn u venture out of home..smile at ur subordinates,boss 4 thr work .......smile at the poor boy asking for alums at traffic lights ..smile at the old woman trying to sell u flowers ..smile at little grl/boy selling u sunshades at traffic lights

--the opposite of luv is not hate as thy all say-----i think the opposite of luv is INDIFFERENCE.sometimes the passions may leap frm luv to hate n backwards too but whn u feel indifferent to the presence of ur luved one it means u hav moved on frm tht time span......strange but true........

--being a girl n being brainy-for many it is inexplicable and intimidating.for some its quaint if utterly unnecessary.for some its an assest albeit complicated

--i believe u is the most beautiful thing n compliment tht u can give to someone it says a lot it says i believe u coz i trust u its beautiful..


----y miss out on lyf by sticking to the same lane unless ur driving?? go crazy with lyf jiyo bindass..live every moment..nvr hold grudges...gift smiles...care a lot...play with kids...share happiness...wipe tears....n listen to stars n trees n leaves...take time to smell the flowers...watch the sky...wish for rainbows...look up at the sky n njoy the flight of birds....giggle a lot....b transparent...n live ur soul...

----reality is much more fun n funky thn any fantasy

--the heart has reasons of which reason has no knowledge no logic.......

--nvr say ILU if u dnt really care.nvr talk abt feelings if thy r not really thr.nvr touch a life if u mean to break a heart.nvr say ur going to do smething if u dnt plan to start.nvr look in the eyes whn all u do is lie.nvr say hi if u really mean gudbye.jiyo bindass n smile sometimes.....for ur own self......

----if things r bad say thnx to GOD for thy cud b worse and if thy r already at worst u can rest assured tht thy can only get better frm here.so y lose ur sleep over things??n y go crazy

vandy's mantra 2

----i dnt mind living in a man's world as long as i
can b a woman in it.....

-----a postive vibration tht u feel reaching ur soul whn u come across
someone whose presence unstich your heart--thts crush n we shd b proud of these crushes hahahaha but nvr crush anyone's heart

-----its often jst enough to b with someone..u dnt need to touch or even talk..a feeling passes between the two of u..ur not alone.....

------life is abt-unplanned walk in the park which u found relaxing n self-discovering...the unexpected visit frm smeone which gives u a new energy...the unpremeditated journey which recharges u...the unsought conversation which gives u a new insight...a loving hug whn u realize u need it most..

-----b sincere but nvr serious in life life is being playful n light....

-----a coincidence is a miracle whr god chose to b anonymous...we may call it destiny too......destiny plays a role in these miracles n thn lets us to choose or chioce for ourselves

-----agar koi aapse darta hai ..dnt rejoice n feel happy n strong abt it...becoz sammne wala aapki taquat se nahi apni kamjori se darta hai....aap taquatwar nahi woh kamjor hai.....

--Rishtey banana aasan hai nibana mushkil,rishtoh me duri lana aasan hai mitana mushkil...

-----lots of ppl want to travel with u in a luxary car but wht one want is smeone who will take the bus with u whn the luxary car breaks down

------some things are limitless-nakhre,narazgi n natunki n the tolerance power for these shd b unlimited......

vandy's mantra's 1

----losing some ppl , u find urself unable to fill the vaccum created,u cant get over the loss all ur life....n losing some ppl , u feel its independence day ..to free frm the spell of tht particular relationship... u feel so happy tht u wonder y didnt u lose thm bfr???

‎-----2 simple rules of life----
1...dnt try to impress anyone..
2...dnt get impressed easily by anyone

-----it isnt bad to b sad ...its as gud as being happy...its the equilibrium of mind n heart tht counts n tht matters

------if u believe long enough n deeply enough..all gud things will b thr...keep ur emotional balance n look at bright siden jst b true to urself n everything will fall into place....a perfect place meant for it.....

-----be happy--it's way of being wise..whn sad or depressed-spend a day with nature.listen her carefully.try reaching back.recall happy past.re-examine your motives.be reasonable.realize your capabilities.write your worries on a paper of air n u will feel strong

------The strongest and weakest thing in the world are one and the same....... Feelings. They give you and others incredible power. Power that can build, destroy, inspire, change and rearrange the world as seen by a person.

------U fall in luv with ur mind...not with ur heart..dil..umm its jst 320
gm..mind is much more power packed to make u feel attracted n tempted n fall head over heels in luv....n its more permanent luv..heart jst follows whr mind takes u..

-------live life without any philosophy to live by....the best way to live life in a glorious way is to lived without any philosophy--simple innocent spontaneous gutsy n happily

------admiration n appreciation shd b positive n vocal..wht the fun in
being silent admirers whn the subject u admire doesnt hav an inkling of
ur feeling,it means nothing to u n the subject..the real n true thing
is to b vocal abt ur admiration in a positive n daring way n b proud of
it n let the subject take pride n complim...ent to ur admiration but respect n regard feelings ..b an admirer not a stalker

-----GOD always gve us more thn wht we deserve.HE knws best for us.trust HIM.dnt try to judge HIM.let HIM handle.just flow with the tide.n njoy life
YOUR ONLY OBLIGATION IN LIFE TIME IS TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. BEING TRUE TO ANYONE OR ANYTHING ELSE MATTERS LATER.
cheers

I'M addicted.....

i am addicted to luv n pampering frm family
i am addicted to euphoria frm my work
i am addicted to unpredictability n beauty of life
i am addicted to smiles n tears that swril of emotions
bring along with passions n duty.....
...i am addicted to living life as a whole.....
n i luv being addicted....

taking a break......

taking a break......
taking a break breaks boredom of busybee
taking a break in relationship breaks it forever
taking a break in weekends breaks discipline
taking a break in thinking breaks the jinxed ideas
...taking a break...either breaks everything.....or breaks monotony...
never take a break..
n nvr break..a heart,,,a relationship..a promise made..a vow taken..
take a break....
break silence...break tears...break the distance...in miles n hearts..
never break trust ...or it jst breaks everything...