LDR-long distance relationship….
why distance in a relationship is ultimately ill-fated. But, is it really difficult to cope and thrive under pressure has forced me to think…….
Along with an LDR comes a variety of negative feelings; frustration, possessiveness, even trust issues….
In difficult times its a bleak picture about long distance, for many people a long distance relationship is the kiss of death. At this stage you crave for each other. You want to be physically close. …
Communication levels have increased many fold these days.:but…these forms of communication often don’t pay off with a truly fulfilling interaction. Whereas it was once easy to chat in person, now those normal, daily interactions are severely curtailed. It requires real effort to keep in touch and feel connected….
Maintaining a long distance relationship can prove to b quite the challenge. and luv isn’t always enough…..it requires effort ,patience and commitment..There’s no point of being in it if everything about your relationship bothers you…..
So enduring a LDR requires---
1-commitment
2-honesty
3-communication
4-trust
5-optimism
Here are things you should focus on.
------ Be strong. Remind yourself of the big picture and be ready to do what it takes to make it work…thr no point plunging into LDR if ur not ready to give 100%..lay down some ground rules n share your expectations.
-----Make sure your partner is clued in to wht is going on in ur life.keep him/her updated abt any changes in lifestyle,work schedules or networking ….anything left unmentioned can backfire in bleak n difficult times….
------ Keep communication channels open make sure ur accessible over the cell or net throughtout the day….talk to ur partner as often as u can….. This will reduce misunderstandings and reassure your partner of your sincerity... Too less communication can end up in, well, frustration….so communicate often as much as u can…dnt keep gaps in communication…dedicate time to ur partner.take time out of your hectic schedule to b in touch..even a simple text message or email works wonders……Use technology. Skype, email, IM n call…. text, chat online, call every single day. It’s what keeps you going. Basically it’s a test of nerves when you are that far apart
-------make it a point to meet up every month.
-----Trust issues can kill any relationship,esp whn it’s a LDR..creating a web of distrust n doubt leads to mutual disrespect n animosity..rather thn resorting to petty arguments…talk out ur suspicions to ease ur mind n move forward….n if a issues on trust creeps in do everything needed to get rid of tht doubt rather thn escaping from sitations n not being answerable n getting rid of relationship n the partner….
--------Dnt let ur relationship becoming a liability…….It takes a lot of time and patience,’ one has to invest a lot of time and emotion to make up for time apart..its the bonding tht makes a relationship…n every relationship comes with a bonding n bondage tht binds the relationship…..
And to make sure negative issues don’t creep into your relationship and ruin it, you and your partner need to have a sensible head on your shoulders…. A relationship is not child’s play….. a couple needs to know where they are headed to make the distance tolerable.
So LDR ----can b endured ……
It can make you independent, strong and it can teach you the value of the much spoken about ‘space’ between couples. ‘It is not for the weak hearted, though. You will spend a lot of time away from your partner and that takes strength n trust n a bonding n a faith tht it will work….from both sides in equality….
Count ur blessings…u hav a partner who u luv.cherish n admire…..n ur cherished in return….
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